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  • Sad fucks.

    Sad fucks.

    — June 6, 2017
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  • Black clouds

    Black clouds

    — January 2, 2017

    There is a sadness that seems to be constantly looming. Our brief periods of elation and splendor are

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  • Every one leaves you with a gift.

    Every one leaves you with a gift.

    — December 13, 2016

    I can’t for the life of me remember where we even met. Clearly from online dating but which platform

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  • Light isn’t lost. It is stolen.

    Light isn’t lost. It is stolen.

    — November 1, 2016

    I used to pride myself on the company I kept. “Your friends are a bunch of assholes.” I would

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  • And maybe it is hard.

    And maybe it is hard.

    — April 27, 2016

    I have always been fascinated by transformations. The desperation and tenacity of the human spirit is

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  • So The Old Could Fade

    So The Old Could Fade

    — November 24, 2015

    The moment we connected is lost to time. You are born with a limited amount of space and as the…

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  • The Right Thing Is Rarely Easy

    The Right Thing Is Rarely Easy

    — August 18, 2015
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  • Youthful Arrogance

    Youthful Arrogance

    — August 14, 2015

    I knew I could get away with it. The things I was shouting. The way I was embarrassing her in…

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  • The Least Likely To Change

    The Least Likely To Change

    — August 12, 2015

    I was sitting on the couch in my sweatpants catching up on my DVR when my phone lit up. I…

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  • When You Know He Is Not The One

    When You Know He Is Not The One

    — July 27, 2015

    She had these odd weathered hand-stitched tapestries on her wall. Three different pictures of sad looking

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  • No Two Are Alike

    No Two Are Alike

    — July 19, 2015

    No one truly knows why we like what we do. After meeting over a thousand people for a date and…

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  • Wrecking Machines

    Wrecking Machines

    — July 13, 2015

    There is a series of unspoken questions you go through online before most people agree to meet in person.

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  • Broken Pieces

    Broken Pieces

    — July 12, 2015

    When he walked through the door you were intrigued that someone so charming would find you attractive.

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  • Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – 16 Rules To Live By

    Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – 16 Rules To Live By

    — July 8, 2015

    Glamour Magazine wrote a very famous article on the things a woman should have and know by 30. It inspired

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  • But I Understand

    But I Understand

    — July 5, 2015

    One of the great things about being an adult is the fact that we can do whatever we want to…

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  • Where To Meet A Good Guy

    Where To Meet A Good Guy

    — July 1, 2015

    It was a shot in the dark. I sent her a mildly flirtatious email and crossed my fingers. To my…

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  • Six years ago

    Six years ago

    — June 27, 2015

    Nine years ago I flew out to Colorado to give a speaking at a university. Thus began my years of…

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  • The Disconnect

    The Disconnect

    — June 26, 2015

    There is a disconnect between generations. And while age does play into this, it is not entirely exclusive.

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  • The Damaged Ones

    The Damaged Ones

    — June 23, 2015

    There was an air of superiority in her tone. Something that comes with being exceedingly successful in

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  • Thrive And Survive

    Thrive And Survive

    — June 20, 2015

    I remember waking up and my mom rushing into my room and sitting down and saying, “Listen, I know

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  • Because Of You

    Because Of You

    — June 15, 2015
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  • Grey Hairs And All

    Grey Hairs And All

    — June 8, 2015
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  • Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – Older & A Little Better

    Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – Older & A Little Better

    — May 29, 2015

    There are thing that are going to happen in your life as you grow up. You will realize that you…

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  • So Someone Just Cheated On You – Now What?

    So Someone Just Cheated On You – Now What?

    — May 28, 2015

    The entire motivation for starting this site was to put something positive back out in to the world.

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  • So You Just Got Dumped – Now What?

    So You Just Got Dumped – Now What?

    — May 27, 2015

    It’s one of the few commonalities we share. Love and the loss of it impacts almost every person

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  • Guest Writer: Ali Larsen – Accepting The Crazy

    Guest Writer: Ali Larsen – Accepting The Crazy

    — May 26, 2015
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  • Respect The Journey

    Respect The Journey

    — May 23, 2015

    Throughout my life I have always kept a moderate to barely above average exercise regiment. I have my

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  • Someone Rad

    Someone Rad

    — May 18, 2015

    I was sitting in the back lounge when he came on the bus. He was loud and obnoxious but with…

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  • When The Mess Becomes Your Mess

    When The Mess Becomes Your Mess

    — May 11, 2015
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  • In All The Right Ways At The Right Times

    In All The Right Ways At The Right Times

    — May 3, 2015
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  • Keeping The Fire

    Keeping The Fire

    — May 2, 2015

    She told me she was moving across the country for him. When she left two years ago, she said that…

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  • My Love Is Not Unconditional

    My Love Is Not Unconditional

    — May 1, 2015

    We were driving along Lake Shore Drive and the waves were crashing white. It was about midnight and we

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  • The Wolves Of Manipulation

    The Wolves Of Manipulation

    — April 30, 2015

    I had to have been around 21. Our little group of hoodlums sat next to a table of adorable girls…

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  • So You Want A Healthy Relationship?

    So You Want A Healthy Relationship?

    — April 29, 2015

    Time has always been a constant theme in my work. It’s time to get going. It’s time to make a…

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  • It Is All Manageable

    It Is All Manageable

    — April 26, 2015

    Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 4:58 am. 5am. i finally washed your smell off of my pillows tonight. then

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  • Red Flags And Small Men

    Red Flags And Small Men

    — April 18, 2015

    Our lives only seem easy in retrospect. When I look back at my life I would like to think it…

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  • Filtering

    Filtering

    — April 10, 2015

    She told me she couldn’t say his name for years. That when she was on the train or in a…

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  • Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 2

    Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 2

    — April 9, 2015
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  • Why No One Needs To Know Your Number

    Why No One Needs To Know Your Number

    — April 7, 2015

    This is an article I published a couple years ago but after some recent conversations, I feel it need

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  • What Do We Need?

    What Do We Need?

    — April 6, 2015
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  • Of Varying Weights

    Of Varying Weights

    — April 2, 2015

    I never intended it to be anything serious. I found her social media profile online and was blown away

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  • I Want You To Want To Do The Dishes

    I Want You To Want To Do The Dishes

    — April 1, 2015

    We had gotten a pretty big group of people together to go to the movies. From what I remember it…

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  • What Is Fair

    What Is Fair

    — March 30, 2015

    The problem was, I put her on a pedestal. Not that she didn’t deserve the utmost respect and adoration,

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  • Being Single Is Not A Curse

    Being Single Is Not A Curse

    — March 28, 2015

    She asked me, “Do you think I will ever want to settle down?” I knew she wanted perspective,

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  • Why He Picked Her

    Why He Picked Her

    — March 26, 2015

    He was tall, handsome, and built. He had a deep voice, confident gait, and perfect hair. The kind of

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  • Learning To Fight Fair In The Gender Wars

    Learning To Fight Fair In The Gender Wars

    — March 24, 2015

    I never liked generalizing people. And while stereotypes exist for a reason, the problem is – they

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  • The Encouragement Of Evolution

    The Encouragement Of Evolution

    — March 21, 2015

    I have always maintained the the key to a happy life is the ability to continue to evolve. Stagnancy

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  • The soundtrack to a breaking heart

    The soundtrack to a breaking heart

    — March 18, 2015

    I get it. I have been there plenty of times to see it coming and to know when I’m deep…

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  • Over And Over Again

    Over And Over Again

    — March 15, 2015
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  • How To Make The First Kiss Tolerable

    How To Make The First Kiss Tolerable

    — March 13, 2015
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  • Guest Writer: Erika Understood – A Survivor Story

    Guest Writer: Erika Understood – A Survivor Story

    — March 7, 2015

    I’m naked. Stark. Ass. Naked. And, I’m in the “quiet room,” although, they might

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  • Just One Person

    Just One Person

    — March 6, 2015

    I walked into my managers office and asked if if she had a few minutes to speak. I sat down…

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  • Why The Good Matters

    Why The Good Matters

    — March 4, 2015

    A few times a year, mostly when it’s late and I have run out of things to look at on…

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  • During The Fight And After The Fight

    During The Fight And After The Fight

    — March 3, 2015

    She sent a text asking if I would be able to meet for coffee. I said sure and that I…

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  • Earning It Back

    Earning It Back

    — February 28, 2015

    She said, “I would totally date you… if I didn’t know about your past.” It’s

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  • Guest Writer: Sarah Bresnahan – Good Enough

    Guest Writer: Sarah Bresnahan – Good Enough

    — February 27, 2015
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  • Never Let Your History Define You

    Never Let Your History Define You

    — February 24, 2015

    I’m the product of a teenage pregnancy. My mom was a 17-year-old high school senior who was desperately

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  • Guest Writer: Jackie Torrez – Amazing After You

    Guest Writer: Jackie Torrez – Amazing After You

    — February 20, 2015

    “My life was amazing before you and it’ll be amazing after you.” It’s what I should’ve said

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  • Erasing Regrets

    Erasing Regrets

    — February 19, 2015

    When I read how people claim to have no regrets, I always sigh and shake my head a bit. Sure,…

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  • What Is Sexy?

    What Is Sexy?

    — February 17, 2015

    Since her online dating profile only had a few pictures, I sent her a text asking if she had any…

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  • Strong, Secure, And Single

    Strong, Secure, And Single

    — February 15, 2015

    I guess I would consider myself lucky in a way that my questionable life choices have provided me the

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  • Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 1

    Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 1

    — February 14, 2015

    We slowly walked up the concrete steps of the industrial building in one of Chicago’s up and coming

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  • What Do You Owe Yourself?

    What Do You Owe Yourself?

    — February 9, 2015

    It took months, but eventually one morning I rolled over and before she could even say good morning,

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  • May The Odds Of Online Dating Be Forever In Your Favor

    May The Odds Of Online Dating Be Forever In Your Favor

    — February 8, 2015

    My phone lit up as the text came through, “There is no way you went on a thousand dates.”

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  • Learning The Hard Way

    Learning The Hard Way

    — February 7, 2015

    There was never a woman more intriguing. I couldn’t believe she responded to my messages let alone

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  • A Consistently Disappointed Coward

    A Consistently Disappointed Coward

    — February 4, 2015
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  • Guest Writer: Robert Dean – The Art Of Not Being A Shitty Dad

    Guest Writer: Robert Dean – The Art Of Not Being A Shitty Dad

    — February 3, 2015

    It’s weird being a dad. I never expected to like this job. Not even close. When my then girlfriend

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  • How I Almost Bought A Ring For The Wrong Woman

    How I Almost Bought A Ring For The Wrong Woman

    — January 28, 2015
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  • The List

    The List

    — January 25, 2015

    Ever since I mustered the confidence to speak to people, I have seemingly been on a continuous search

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  • No Obligations But One

    No Obligations But One

    — January 24, 2015
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  • Weak Promises And Why You Believe Them

    Weak Promises And Why You Believe Them

    — January 22, 2015

    We have all heard the saying that there is a difference between words and actions. And it’s pretty

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  • Understanding Your Power

    Understanding Your Power

    — January 21, 2015

    Once you realize the influence you have on another person it is difficult to suppress the desire to abuse

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  • The Scars Of The Lunchroom Battleground

    The Scars Of The Lunchroom Battleground

    — January 20, 2015
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  • The Art Of Friendship

    The Art Of Friendship

    — January 19, 2015

    As we age, it is nearly impossible to avoid gaining knowledge and insight into the world around you.

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  • The Importance Of Coffee

    The Importance Of Coffee

    — January 16, 2015

    We met downtown for overpriced coffee. We chatted and discussed the ridiculousness of our past relationships.

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  • A Letter To A Fat Girl

    A Letter To A Fat Girl

    — January 15, 2015
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  • Falling In Love With Your Fight

    Falling In Love With Your Fight

    — January 14, 2015
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  • When A Boy Becomes A Man

    When A Boy Becomes A Man

    — January 13, 2015
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  • Rock By Rock

    Rock By Rock

    — January 12, 2015

    We hear all the time about how important self-confidence is to our growth. It seems to be the catch-all

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