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Black clouds
— January 2, 2017There is a sadness that seems to be constantly looming. Our brief periods of elation and splendor are
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Every one leaves you with a gift.
— December 13, 2016I can’t for the life of me remember where we even met. Clearly from online dating but which platform
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Light isn’t lost. It is stolen.
— November 1, 2016I used to pride myself on the company I kept. “Your friends are a bunch of assholes.” I would
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And maybe it is hard.
— April 27, 2016I have always been fascinated by transformations. The desperation and tenacity of the human spirit is
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So The Old Could Fade
— November 24, 2015The moment we connected is lost to time. You are born with a limited amount of space and as the…
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Youthful Arrogance
— August 14, 2015I knew I could get away with it. The things I was shouting. The way I was embarrassing her in…
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The Least Likely To Change
— August 12, 2015I was sitting on the couch in my sweatpants catching up on my DVR when my phone lit up. I…
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When You Know He Is Not The One
— July 27, 2015She had these odd weathered hand-stitched tapestries on her wall. Three different pictures of sad looking
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No Two Are Alike
— July 19, 2015No one truly knows why we like what we do. After meeting over a thousand people for a date and…
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Wrecking Machines
— July 13, 2015There is a series of unspoken questions you go through online before most people agree to meet in person.
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Broken Pieces
— July 12, 2015When he walked through the door you were intrigued that someone so charming would find you attractive.
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Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – 16 Rules To Live By
— July 8, 2015Glamour Magazine wrote a very famous article on the things a woman should have and know by 30. It inspired
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But I Understand
— July 5, 2015One of the great things about being an adult is the fact that we can do whatever we want to…
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Where To Meet A Good Guy
— July 1, 2015It was a shot in the dark. I sent her a mildly flirtatious email and crossed my fingers. To my…
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Six years ago
— June 27, 2015Nine years ago I flew out to Colorado to give a speaking at a university. Thus began my years of…
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The Disconnect
— June 26, 2015There is a disconnect between generations. And while age does play into this, it is not entirely exclusive.
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The Damaged Ones
— June 23, 2015There was an air of superiority in her tone. Something that comes with being exceedingly successful in
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Thrive And Survive
— June 20, 2015I remember waking up and my mom rushing into my room and sitting down and saying, “Listen, I know
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Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – Older & A Little Better
— May 29, 2015There are thing that are going to happen in your life as you grow up. You will realize that you…
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So Someone Just Cheated On You – Now What?
— May 28, 2015The entire motivation for starting this site was to put something positive back out in to the world.
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So You Just Got Dumped – Now What?
— May 27, 2015It’s one of the few commonalities we share. Love and the loss of it impacts almost every person
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Respect The Journey
— May 23, 2015Throughout my life I have always kept a moderate to barely above average exercise regiment. I have my
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Someone Rad
— May 18, 2015I was sitting in the back lounge when he came on the bus. He was loud and obnoxious but with…
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Keeping The Fire
— May 2, 2015She told me she was moving across the country for him. When she left two years ago, she said that…
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My Love Is Not Unconditional
— May 1, 2015We were driving along Lake Shore Drive and the waves were crashing white. It was about midnight and we
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The Wolves Of Manipulation
— April 30, 2015I had to have been around 21. Our little group of hoodlums sat next to a table of adorable girls…
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So You Want A Healthy Relationship?
— April 29, 2015Time has always been a constant theme in my work. It’s time to get going. It’s time to make a…
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It Is All Manageable
— April 26, 2015Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 4:58 am. 5am. i finally washed your smell off of my pillows tonight. then
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Red Flags And Small Men
— April 18, 2015Our lives only seem easy in retrospect. When I look back at my life I would like to think it…
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Filtering
— April 10, 2015She told me she couldn’t say his name for years. That when she was on the train or in a…
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Why No One Needs To Know Your Number
— April 7, 2015This is an article I published a couple years ago but after some recent conversations, I feel it need
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Of Varying Weights
— April 2, 2015I never intended it to be anything serious. I found her social media profile online and was blown away
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I Want You To Want To Do The Dishes
— April 1, 2015We had gotten a pretty big group of people together to go to the movies. From what I remember it…
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What Is Fair
— March 30, 2015The problem was, I put her on a pedestal. Not that she didn’t deserve the utmost respect and adoration,
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Being Single Is Not A Curse
— March 28, 2015She asked me, “Do you think I will ever want to settle down?” I knew she wanted perspective,
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Why He Picked Her
— March 26, 2015He was tall, handsome, and built. He had a deep voice, confident gait, and perfect hair. The kind of
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Learning To Fight Fair In The Gender Wars
— March 24, 2015I never liked generalizing people. And while stereotypes exist for a reason, the problem is – they
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The Encouragement Of Evolution
— March 21, 2015I have always maintained the the key to a happy life is the ability to continue to evolve. Stagnancy
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The soundtrack to a breaking heart
— March 18, 2015I get it. I have been there plenty of times to see it coming and to know when I’m deep…
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Guest Writer: Erika Understood – A Survivor Story
— March 7, 2015I’m naked. Stark. Ass. Naked. And, I’m in the “quiet room,” although, they might
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Just One Person
— March 6, 2015I walked into my managers office and asked if if she had a few minutes to speak. I sat down…
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Why The Good Matters
— March 4, 2015A few times a year, mostly when it’s late and I have run out of things to look at on…
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During The Fight And After The Fight
— March 3, 2015She sent a text asking if I would be able to meet for coffee. I said sure and that I…
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Earning It Back
— February 28, 2015She said, “I would totally date you… if I didn’t know about your past.” It’s
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Never Let Your History Define You
— February 24, 2015I’m the product of a teenage pregnancy. My mom was a 17-year-old high school senior who was desperately
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Guest Writer: Jackie Torrez – Amazing After You
— February 20, 2015“My life was amazing before you and it’ll be amazing after you.” It’s what I should’ve said
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Erasing Regrets
— February 19, 2015When I read how people claim to have no regrets, I always sigh and shake my head a bit. Sure,…
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What Is Sexy?
— February 17, 2015Since her online dating profile only had a few pictures, I sent her a text asking if she had any…
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Strong, Secure, And Single
— February 15, 2015I guess I would consider myself lucky in a way that my questionable life choices have provided me the
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Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 1
— February 14, 2015We slowly walked up the concrete steps of the industrial building in one of Chicago’s up and coming
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What Do You Owe Yourself?
— February 9, 2015It took months, but eventually one morning I rolled over and before she could even say good morning,
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May The Odds Of Online Dating Be Forever In Your Favor
— February 8, 2015My phone lit up as the text came through, “There is no way you went on a thousand dates.”
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Learning The Hard Way
— February 7, 2015There was never a woman more intriguing. I couldn’t believe she responded to my messages let alone
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Guest Writer: Robert Dean – The Art Of Not Being A Shitty Dad
— February 3, 2015It’s weird being a dad. I never expected to like this job. Not even close. When my then girlfriend
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The List
— January 25, 2015Ever since I mustered the confidence to speak to people, I have seemingly been on a continuous search
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Weak Promises And Why You Believe Them
— January 22, 2015We have all heard the saying that there is a difference between words and actions. And it’s pretty
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Understanding Your Power
— January 21, 2015Once you realize the influence you have on another person it is difficult to suppress the desire to abuse
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The Art Of Friendship
— January 19, 2015As we age, it is nearly impossible to avoid gaining knowledge and insight into the world around you.
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The Importance Of Coffee
— January 16, 2015We met downtown for overpriced coffee. We chatted and discussed the ridiculousness of our past relationships.
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Rock By Rock
— January 12, 2015We hear all the time about how important self-confidence is to our growth. It seems to be the catch-all
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