Sad fucks.
— June 6, 2017I remember a time when meeting someone who was just as damaged was a bit of a relief. Everyone walking…
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The light of debt
— January 28, 2017The pitch in her voice began to escalate. The words were coming faster and faster in frantic disjointed sentences. The…
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The best part of my day
— January 4, 2017She went to bed earlier than I did. A little hold over from her time spent in corporate America and…
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Black clouds
— January 2, 2017There is a sadness that seems to be constantly looming. Our brief periods of elation and splendor are consistently ruined…
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Every one leaves you with a gift.
— December 13, 2016I can’t for the life of me remember where we even met. Clearly from online dating but which platform and…
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Light isn’t lost. It is stolen.
— November 1, 2016I used to pride myself on the company I kept. “Your friends are a bunch of assholes.” I would laugh…
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How do you know when you are in love?
— October 27, 2016Someone once asked me, “How do you know when you are in love?” I responded the way you probably would,…
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And maybe it is hard.
— April 27, 2016I have always been fascinated by transformations. The desperation and tenacity of the human spirit is fascinating. I am magnetized…
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So The Old Could Fade
— November 24, 2015The moment we connected is lost to time. You are born with a limited amount of space and as the…
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Living With The Heartbreak
— September 2, 2015My grandfather was a kind and gentle man. He was kind in the way TV grandfathers treat their grandkids on…
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The End And On To The Beginning
— August 25, 2015So I guess this is a good time to let you all know that I will be shutting down the…
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All I Ever Wanted Was To Be Objectified
— August 20, 2015“I had to leave because I went through all the women in that town,” she said. She probably expected me…
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The Right Thing Is Rarely Easy
— August 18, 2015All I could think was, here we go again. Having the same conversation over and over. I just wanted to…
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Why No One Can Handle Me
— August 16, 2015She hopped in my car as fast as possible while trying to escape the rain that was coming down in…
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Youthful Arrogance
— August 14, 2015I knew I could get away with it. The things I was shouting. The way I was embarrassing her in…
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The Least Likely To Change
— August 12, 2015I was sitting on the couch in my sweatpants catching up on my DVR when my phone lit up. I…
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Spite Is A Cancer
— August 11, 2015First, I want to begin by apologizing for my lack of articles. This past week was one of the most…
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Remember To Be Careful
— August 8, 2015We had been talking for an intense twenty minutes. It was short ride, and I looked down at the map…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 5
— August 6, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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You Are Not Picky.
— August 4, 2015She stared at me with contempt. Furrowed brow, pursed lips, squinting eyes. It wasn’t playful. It wasn’t endearing or adorable,…
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To Feel Whole Again
— August 3, 2015We were lying in her bed watching the storm roll across the buildings. The view from her 52nd floor apartment…
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The Impossibility Of Compatibity
— August 2, 2015She asked to meet at a local bar near her house. She needed to be close to home in case…
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Wrong Just Like Me
— July 30, 2015Everyone in high school was convinced they were going to marry their boyfriend or girlfriend, and I was no exception….
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Philandering Ways
— July 29, 2015It was a beautiful summer day so we sat on the outdoor patio. Surrounded by the downtown buildings and occasional…
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When You Know He Is Not The One
— July 27, 2015She had these odd weathered hand-stitched tapestries on her wall. Three different pictures of sad looking clowns on what was…
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Moca
— July 26, 2015I used her. She didn’t even know it was coming. She didn’t even tell me her real name, but she…
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Why Sex Is Not Love
— July 25, 2015Since when is sex the “ultimate” form of love and why do we all just take this as gospel? The…
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Why Cuddling Is Better Than Sex
— July 24, 2015Through all of my mis-adventures with internet dating, I have learned that a vast majority of women love to cuddle….
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Someone Who Needs It
— July 23, 2015He said, “I just wish I knew why she keeps going back to him.” We drove south on Lake Shore…
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I Know (A Letter To A Friend)
— July 21, 2015I know it seems like things are always rough but this time right now might be one of the roughest….
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Guys Like Me Don’t Kiss Girls Like You
— July 20, 2015Unseasonably warm for fall in Chicago, I rode toward Racine Avenue slowly so I wouldn’t sweat. My eyes still puffed…
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No Two Are Alike
— July 19, 2015No one truly knows why we like what we do. After meeting over a thousand people for a date and…
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Survivors
— July 17, 2015It really is an interesting thing to look at if you step back for a minute – this life we…
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Just Another Coffee Date
— July 15, 2015Just Another Coffee Date An excerpt from my book Maybe He’ll Grow Out Of It I put the condom in…
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Wrecking Machines
— July 13, 2015There is a series of unspoken questions you go through online before most people agree to meet in person. Generally,…
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Broken Pieces
— July 12, 2015When he walked through the door you were intrigued that someone so charming would find you attractive. Or maybe you…
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The South To Her North
— July 10, 2015We had agreed to meet downtown on her lunch hour for coffee. She showed up in a blazer and sensible…
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Respectful Fuckboys
— July 9, 2015I have a confession: I am a recovering Fuckboy. For those of you who don’t know the definition, just do…
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Guest Writer: Keltie Knight – 16 Rules To Live By
— July 8, 2015Glamour Magazine wrote a very famous article on the things a woman should have and know by 30. It inspired me…
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Never Be Ashamed Of Your Enthusiasm
— July 6, 2015She sat across from me visibly uncomfortable. Eyes darting around the room then resting back at her shoes. The way…
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But I Understand
— July 5, 2015One of the great things about being an adult is the fact that we can do whatever we want to…
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Why Did He Flake?
— July 4, 2015She sent me a text, “I’m such a loser.” “Why do you say that?” “Because it’s Saturday night, I shaved…
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On, Up, Forward, And Away
— July 3, 2015I don’t hang out with children all that often. I don’t have any, all my friends that do live out…
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Where To Meet A Good Guy
— July 1, 2015It was a shot in the dark. I sent her a mildly flirtatious email and crossed my fingers. To my…
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Building A Real Person
— June 30, 2015The equally great and awful aspect of internet dating is the fact that you can be practically anonymous. Sure, you…
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Relationships Never Follow A Straight Line
— June 28, 2015He threw his hockey equipment in the back seat, closed the door, then hopped into my passenger seat and asked…
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Six years ago
— June 27, 2015Nine years ago I flew out to Colorado to give a speaking at a university. Thus began my years of…
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The Disconnect
— June 26, 2015There is a disconnect between generations. And while age does play into this, it is not entirely exclusive. My mother…
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Doomsayer
— June 25, 2015Last week, I wrote an article referencing a story I wrote in my book, The Direction Of Home. The story…
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The Damaged Ones
— June 23, 2015There was an air of superiority in her tone. Something that comes with being exceedingly successful in one’s career but…
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Thrive And Survive
— June 20, 2015I remember waking up and my mom rushing into my room and sitting down and saying, “Listen, I know you…
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Forever Swiping Right
— June 19, 2015Under the El tracks in Chicago, I once met a woman for sex in the front seat of a car….
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The Expectation Of Expectations
— June 17, 2015One of the few things that I think a lot of people misunderstand about dating is expectation. From the first…
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Lures Cast
— June 16, 2015While I was writing my dating profile, I told my roommate I would meet up with anyone who asked. Finding…
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Because Of You
— June 15, 2015I guess what you never really expect is that you never forget. Over the past week, I have been going…
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Disadvantages
— June 14, 2015I opened my laptop today to do my writing and I noticed that I didn’t close out of the PDF…
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Fourth Chances
— June 13, 2015It has been a while since I have been deep in the belly of online dating. But like summer camp,…
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A Cold Drink
— June 12, 2015Her initial opening email made some mention about my online profile in reference to something I wrote about how you…
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Force It Until It Snaps
— June 10, 2015I read an article recently that mentioned a theory about how as we grow older we lose more and more…
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Grey Hairs And All
— June 8, 2015It has always been about what I could get. I mean, even my first girlfriend was more about social status…
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Good On Paper
— June 7, 2015I was talking with a friend last night about her recent troubles and this story came up. Instead of rehashing…
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An Invitation To Stay
— June 5, 2015She sat across from me nervously tugging at the bottom of her striped top. I knew the motion. She was…
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Who Is In Your Corner
— June 4, 2015He stood across from me, eyes transfixed on the passing traffic. He wasn’t pausing for dramatic effect, he was visibly…
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Tiny Explosions
— June 2, 2015Four times in the past couple weeks people have said that I look 27. When I tell them how old…
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Amazing Soup
— June 1, 2015I don’t know if I have mentioned this on here before but in my spare time, I sometimes drive for…
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What Works For Me
— May 31, 2015It was rainy Saturday night in Chicago. I drove slowly down Clark Street doing my best to avoid the zombie…
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So Someone Just Cheated On You – Now What?
— May 28, 2015The entire motivation for starting this site was to put something positive back out in to the world. It was…
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So You Just Got Dumped – Now What?
— May 27, 2015It’s one of the few commonalities we share. Love and the loss of it impacts almost every person at every…
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The Whole Truth
— May 24, 2015We constantly hear people talk about how they always tell the truth or how they just want to hear the…
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Respect The Journey
— May 23, 2015Throughout my life I have always kept a moderate to barely above average exercise regiment. I have my slow months…
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Where To Begin
— May 22, 2015I recently received an email asking me for suggestions on how to help someone connect more with her boyfriend. She…
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How Hard Is It To Just Lie?
— May 21, 2015I am a naturally curious person. If you have ever had the displeasure of sitting across from me over coffee…
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The Tragedy Of Relationships
— May 19, 2015I pulled the baked potatoes out of the oven and placed them on the table. She called from the other…
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Someone Rad
— May 18, 2015I was sitting in the back lounge when he came on the bus. He was loud and obnoxious but with…
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The Storm
— May 16, 2015When she called and said that she wanted to break up with me I simply responded with “Okay,” and then…
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Managing The Crazy
— May 14, 2015Like you, I was raised with unrealistic expectations. The ideal of the perfect person is sold to us through movies…
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A Few Seconds Longer
— May 13, 2015I remember him leaning her up against his red Ford Escort that he had bought himself from working at his…
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When The Mess Becomes Your Mess
— May 11, 2015He walked in the apartment visibly upset. Without saying hey to any of us, he kept his head down as…
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Your End Of The Bargain
— May 8, 2015I don’t remember exactly which website it was, but I do recall how intriguing I found her profile. She was…
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The X Amount Of Expectation
— May 7, 2015We had been dating for a few months and had somehow made it past the period of being a simple…
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One Thousand First Dates
— May 6, 2015After telling someone you’ve been on over one thousand first dates, you can expect to be asked some questions. Some…
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Someone’s Someone
— May 5, 2015I have been in some form of a romantic relationship for the majority of my life. It began in 8th…
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In All The Right Ways At The Right Times
— May 3, 2015When I think about it, there have been very few people I have come across that have genuinely shook me…
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Keeping The Fire
— May 2, 2015She told me she was moving across the country for him. When she left two years ago, she said that…
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My Love Is Not Unconditional
— May 1, 2015We were driving along Lake Shore Drive and the waves were crashing white. It was about midnight and we were…
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The Wolves Of Manipulation
— April 30, 2015I had to have been around 21. Our little group of hoodlums sat next to a table of adorable girls…
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So You Want A Healthy Relationship?
— April 29, 2015Time has always been a constant theme in my work. It’s time to get going. It’s time to make a…
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On How To Ruin Your Girlfriend
— April 28, 2015If you’re like me, most of your relationships have failed. Maybe some were your fault, but let’s be honest –…
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Ahoy hoy.
— April 27, 2015I will be leaving for the airport in a few hours, then after a bit of a pit stop in…
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It Is All Manageable
— April 26, 2015Tuesday, December 1st, 2009 4:58 am. 5am. i finally washed your smell off of my pillows tonight. then i died…
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Someone Is Watching You
— April 25, 2015Tonight, Bruce Jenner went on television and made his (he did say that until he emerges as a woman he…
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Successful Booty Calls
— April 23, 2015Today, I was asked to respond to this question for a website: “Basically, if you are going to do the…
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A Garden Does Not Grow On It’s Own
— April 22, 2015At first I thought it was a joke. Like the way you say things in the heat of the moment,…
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Deal-Breakers And Booger-Eaters
— April 21, 2015There are vast expanses of the country that don’t receive cell phone reception. Miles upon miles where you are forced…
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I Care That They Know That I Care
— April 20, 2015I always dread birthdays. Not because I fear arbitrary milestones or the number of times the planet has made it’s…
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Red Flags And Small Men
— April 18, 2015Our lives only seem easy in retrospect. When I look back at my life I would like to think it…
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Chasing Rabbits
— April 16, 2015I always say you have to give it a few years to let the wounds heal, but eventually, provided you…
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Burning Fight
— April 15, 2015It was late, probably two or three in the morning and my depression was weighing heavy. In retrospect, I can…
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A Change Of Pace
— April 14, 2015Okay, so I had an idea for an article tonight but I as I was outlining it over in my…
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Ethical Outlaws
— April 13, 2015I have done my fair share of awful things in relationships over the years. I won’t go into too much…
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Why I Still Talk About My Exs
— April 11, 2015In my past article, I mentioned that I wasn’t an easy person to date. Sure, I’m abrasive and opinionated like…
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Filtering
— April 10, 2015She told me she couldn’t say his name for years. That when she was on the train or in a…
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Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 2
— April 9, 2015For part 1 of this, click here The break up followed two weeks later. It was perfect timing because after…
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Conversations With Strangers
— April 8, 2015I pulled up in front of the West Loop wine bar and waited. After a few minutes, an attractive blonde…
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Why No One Needs To Know Your Number
— April 7, 2015This is an article I published a couple years ago but after some recent conversations, I feel it need to…
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What Do We Need?
— April 6, 2015The older I get, the more I realize just how little I know. More specifically, how little I know of…
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What Do You Give?
— April 5, 2015Last night I drove out to the suburbs to hang out with my brother for his birthday. He had a…
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Of Varying Weights
— April 2, 2015I never intended it to be anything serious. I found her social media profile online and was blown away by…
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I Want You To Want To Do The Dishes
— April 1, 2015We had gotten a pretty big group of people together to go to the movies. From what I remember it…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 4.
— March 31, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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What Is Fair
— March 30, 2015The problem was, I put her on a pedestal. Not that she didn’t deserve the utmost respect and adoration, but…
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Being Single Is Not A Curse
— March 28, 2015She asked me, “Do you think I will ever want to settle down?” I knew she wanted perspective, or even…
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A Shot At Forever
— March 27, 2015I guess the most important aspect of my relationships didn’t come to light until fairly recently. See, I have always…
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Why He Picked Her
— March 26, 2015He was tall, handsome, and built. He had a deep voice, confident gait, and perfect hair. The kind of guy…
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Redefining Forever
— March 25, 2015She yelled, “But you promised you would never leave me.” And she was right. I did say that. And I…
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Learning To Fight Fair In The Gender Wars
— March 24, 2015I never liked generalizing people. And while stereotypes exist for a reason, the problem is – they simply aren’t exclusive….
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The Encouragement Of Evolution
— March 21, 2015I have always maintained the the key to a happy life is the ability to continue to evolve. Stagnancy is…
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How To Create A Legacy
— March 20, 2015I am notorious for over-booking. At least once a week, plans will overlap with other friends and I look like…
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You’re A Mess
— March 19, 2015Like I have said before, there is a difference between what we need and what we want out of a…
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The soundtrack to a breaking heart
— March 18, 2015I get it. I have been there plenty of times to see it coming and to know when I’m deep…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 3
— March 17, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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Over And Over Again
— March 15, 2015I often talk about my time immersed in online dating. I speak about it in the way that people reminisce…
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How To Make The First Kiss Tolerable
— March 13, 2015So I started a podcast over four years ago to answer the questions people had been asking me about sex…
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Spilled Coffee
— March 12, 2015It was a beautiful sunny day in Chicago yesterday so I walked over to my local Starbucks and ordered a…
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Still Got It
— March 11, 2015I had some time on my hands and decided to help organize and clean my moms basement. While my mom…
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Just One Person
— March 6, 2015I walked into my managers office and asked if if she had a few minutes to speak. I sat down…
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How To Tell If You’re In Love
— March 5, 2015I sent him a text asking him how he was handling the break up and he replied, “She made the…
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Why The Good Matters
— March 4, 2015A few times a year, mostly when it’s late and I have run out of things to look at on…
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During The Fight And After The Fight
— March 3, 2015She sent a text asking if I would be able to meet for coffee. I said sure and that I…
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Sleep Better
— March 1, 2015There are few things that give us away more than our subconscious. Sometimes when I get stuck on writing I…
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Earning It Back
— February 28, 2015She said, “I would totally date you… if I didn’t know about your past.” It’s not like I wasn’t aware…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 2
— February 26, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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Better After You Leave
— February 25, 2015My first real job – one where I wasn’t being paid under the table or being exploited for underaged labor…
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He Broke Up With Me Via Text
— February 22, 2015“I just don’t understand.” She said, “What kind of person would text a breakup?” “A coward.” I said. “All he…
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Erasing Regrets
— February 19, 2015When I read how people claim to have no regrets, I always sigh and shake my head a bit. Sure,…
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Leave No Questions
— February 18, 2015I picked up the phone to call for the third time. Her parents kept telling me that she was out…
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What Is Sexy?
— February 17, 2015Since her online dating profile only had a few pictures, I sent her a text asking if she had any…
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Strong, Secure, And Single
— February 15, 2015I guess I would consider myself lucky in a way that my questionable life choices have provided me the opportunity…
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Redefining Sexuality For The Better – Part 1
— February 14, 2015We slowly walked up the concrete steps of the industrial building in one of Chicago’s up and coming neighborhoods. It…
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Compatibility Attacks In The Most Unexpected Moments
— February 13, 2015We were sitting on opposite sides of the couch facing each other. I pulled the red blanket up to my…
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When Your Heart Gets It Right
— February 12, 2015It happened so long ago but I could still take you back to the exact parking spot where I lost…
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What Do You Owe Yourself?
— February 9, 2015It took months, but eventually one morning I rolled over and before she could even say good morning, I said,…
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May The Odds Of Online Dating Be Forever In Your Favor
— February 8, 2015My phone lit up as the text came through, “There is no way you went on a thousand dates.” She…
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Learning The Hard Way
— February 7, 2015There was never a woman more intriguing. I couldn’t believe she responded to my messages let alone allow me in…
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Confusing Men And How To Avoid Them
— February 6, 2015Every person we encounter is different. Even if there is nothing noticeably unique about their character when we meet them….
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The Explanation Of The Dreaded Cut-And-Paste Message
— February 5, 2015I have been online dating since I first learned there was a way to semi-anonymously contact another person online. I…
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A Consistently Disappointed Coward
— February 4, 2015I once wrote a story called Less Than 35. A sad, self-serving, tale about doing my best to stay alive…
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We’re On A Break
— February 1, 2015She was blocking the door with her body. It wasn’t even crying anymore, it was more of a hyperventilating heaving….
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A Comfortable Apathy
— January 31, 2015I think we both knew the relationship had been over for months. It seemed that we were just waiting for…
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How Is Your “Type” Working Out For You?
— January 30, 2015“Oh, I know someone I could set you up with.” I said. She looked at me with pursed lips and…
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And The Best Way To Ruin The Sentimentality Of Love Is
— January 29, 2015I was just trying to drink my coffee in peace but my local Starbucks is always so overpacked that it’s…
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How I Almost Bought A Ring For The Wrong Woman
— January 28, 2015I walked past the shops looking at my reflection in the windows wondering if I had made the mistake of…
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Lurking Never Made It Better
— January 27, 2015I often wonder how different I would have turned out had social media been around when I was at my…
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My Welcome Obligation
— January 26, 2015They would say, “But I just don’t know how to tell him.” And I would always respond, “Just tell him…
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The List
— January 25, 2015Ever since I mustered the confidence to speak to people, I have seemingly been on a continuous search for the…
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No Obligations But One
— January 24, 2015In the mid-90s, my friends and I would make the 20 minute journey, two towns away, to go get coffee…
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Weak Promises And Why You Believe Them
— January 22, 2015We have all heard the saying that there is a difference between words and actions. And it’s pretty simple. There…
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Understanding Your Power
— January 21, 2015Once you realize the influence you have on another person it is difficult to suppress the desire to abuse it….
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The Scars Of The Lunchroom Battleground
— January 20, 2015I guess I grew up around enough people with an entitled attitude to have learned to steer clear of expectations….
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The Art Of Friendship
— January 19, 2015As we age, it is nearly impossible to avoid gaining knowledge and insight into the world around you. Well, to…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 1.
— January 18, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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The Importance Of Coffee
— January 16, 2015We met downtown for overpriced coffee. We chatted and discussed the ridiculousness of our past relationships. For as much as…
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A Letter To A Fat Girl
— January 15, 2015I knew she had been drinking. Not to the point of being sloppy or belligerent, but just enough for her…
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Falling In Love With Your Fight
— January 14, 2015I am not easy. It took me a while to understand this, but eventually after years of long talks and…
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When A Boy Becomes A Man
— January 13, 2015I think one of the most defining moments as a man is when you realize you actually do owe something…
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Rock By Rock
— January 12, 2015We hear all the time about how important self-confidence is to our growth. It seems to be the catch-all for…
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The Wants And Needs Of A Healthy Heart
— January 10, 2015If you’re here and reading this, odds are you want what most of us desire. To be in a happy…
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Behavior Modifications For The Modern Male
— January 9, 2015Her hand kept tapping her empty cup on the metal table. “It’s like, I just keep telling him what to…
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How To Be Cool
— January 7, 2015She was one of the first strangers I met from the internet. I’m pretty sure we found each other on…
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Holding Your Insides Together
— January 6, 2015One of the biggest mistakes people do when attempting to console a friend after a break-up is to tell them…
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No Matter Where You Are
— January 6, 2015I rolled on my side and wrapped my arm around her. I nuzzled my nose into the back of her…
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Never Date A Coward
— January 6, 2015I asked him how his relationship was going and he said, “Eh.” Just a simple grunt of a response but…
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The benefits of exclusionary tactics
— December 28, 2014I wondered why she didn’t come around much anymore. On the weekends, my mom would leave to visit her boyfriend…
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A guide to navigating the turds of online dating
— December 28, 2014My friend was new to online dating. We texted back and forth about the emails she had received and laughed…
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He thinks about you.
— December 28, 2014Maybe because it’s late and maybe it’s because it’s a warm summer night and nights like these remind me of…
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Believing the lie
— December 28, 2014Have you ever been with someone you didn’t trust? A boyfriend or girlfriend. A brother or sister. A friend or teammate….
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Terminal laziness, unreasonable laziness, and the unwavering fight
— December 28, 2014Each one of us was born with some thing or some one doing it’s best to hold us back. None…
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Let it in
— December 28, 2014So how will you make it? You make it by changing the way you see it. The break-up will be tough….
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Why he never said I love you back
— December 28, 2014I was listening to her talk. She was emotional and I could see the tears welling up in her eyes….
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The hard parts
— December 28, 2014The problem is, we are constantly looking to be inspired. We are so susceptible that even when we’re not paying…
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The power of a single mom
— December 28, 2014I watched the red tail lights zoom away from our house and fade into the evening darkness. I looked back…
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Sad fucks.
— June 6, 2017I remember a time when meeting someone who was just as damaged was a bit of a relief. Everyone walking…
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The light of debt
— January 28, 2017The pitch in her voice began to escalate. The words were coming faster and faster in frantic disjointed sentences. The…
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The best part of my day
— January 4, 2017She went to bed earlier than I did. A little hold over from her time spent in corporate America and…
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Black clouds
— January 2, 2017There is a sadness that seems to be constantly looming. Our brief periods of elation and splendor are consistently ruined…
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Every one leaves you with a gift.
— December 13, 2016I can’t for the life of me remember where we even met. Clearly from online dating but which platform and…
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Light isn’t lost. It is stolen.
— November 1, 2016I used to pride myself on the company I kept. “Your friends are a bunch of assholes.” I would laugh…
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How do you know when you are in love?
— October 27, 2016Someone once asked me, “How do you know when you are in love?” I responded the way you probably would,…
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And maybe it is hard.
— April 27, 2016I have always been fascinated by transformations. The desperation and tenacity of the human spirit is fascinating. I am magnetized…
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So The Old Could Fade
— November 24, 2015The moment we connected is lost to time. You are born with a limited amount of space and as the…
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Living With The Heartbreak
— September 2, 2015My grandfather was a kind and gentle man. He was kind in the way TV grandfathers treat their grandkids on…
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The End And On To The Beginning
— August 25, 2015So I guess this is a good time to let you all know that I will be shutting down the…
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All I Ever Wanted Was To Be Objectified
— August 20, 2015“I had to leave because I went through all the women in that town,” she said. She probably expected me…
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The Right Thing Is Rarely Easy
— August 18, 2015All I could think was, here we go again. Having the same conversation over and over. I just wanted to…
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Why No One Can Handle Me
— August 16, 2015She hopped in my car as fast as possible while trying to escape the rain that was coming down in…
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Youthful Arrogance
— August 14, 2015I knew I could get away with it. The things I was shouting. The way I was embarrassing her in…
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The Least Likely To Change
— August 12, 2015I was sitting on the couch in my sweatpants catching up on my DVR when my phone lit up. I…
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Spite Is A Cancer
— August 11, 2015First, I want to begin by apologizing for my lack of articles. This past week was one of the most…
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Remember To Be Careful
— August 8, 2015We had been talking for an intense twenty minutes. It was short ride, and I looked down at the map…
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Interviews With Cheaters, Part 5
— August 6, 2015In the summer of 2014, I set out to interview cheaters. Men, women, bi, gay, straight, black, white, young, old,…
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You Are Not Picky.
— August 4, 2015She stared at me with contempt. Furrowed brow, pursed lips, squinting eyes. It wasn’t playful. It wasn’t endearing or adorable,…
